- Leaving a violent relationship is the most dangerous time for a woman: she may fear for her safety and her children’s safety if she leaves.
- Some victims never tell anyone about the abuse: they may feel ashamed or embarrassed, or fear being stigmatized by others.
- He may have promised to change, or kill himself if she leaves.
- She may live in an isolated area, or be socially-isolated, and lack access to information, resources and support.
- She may face communication, language or cultural barriers.
- She may be economically dependent on her partner and fear poverty for herself and her children.
- Emotional abuse may have worn down her self-confidence.
- She may think the abuse is her fault, because her partner tells her it is. To accept that “no matter what she does, she can’t win” feels like she has no control over her life. It may be easier to think it is somehow her fault. If she changes, maybe he will too.
- She may have strong beliefs about keeping family together, or may experience similar pressure from relatives.
- She may be reluctant to report the abuse to the police, either because she fears retaliation, does not believe that involving the criminal justice system can help, or fears losing her children.
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, there is help and resources available!