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Infidelity is one of the most devastating things that can happen in a relationship. When one partner cheats on another it leaves lifelong scars. Sometimes those scars may not be evident until later in life but nobody escapes infidelity unscathed.

Whether you’re young and dating or older in a committed relationship; cheating hurts! Being young doesn’t make it easier to deal with cheating. In fact, the innocence of youth and first love can make the wounds of infidelity cut even deeper. A youth may carry those wounds into another relationship as adults in their lives might simply believe that it’s part of the “growing experience” to get their heartbroken by their first love. If you are in a long-term relationship or marriage it can be paralyzing to find  that your trust has been obliterated by the person that you vowed “until death do us part”. If you have children, your children will be affected in some way, shape or form. Even if you do your level best to keep a happy, well-grounded home life for your family during this time, kids are very intuitive and will be affected in some negative fashion. The bottom line is support systems of some fashion must be in place to counter any damages that the cheater has inflicted on the victim and surrounding family members.f-002850029_boy_upset_and_mum

Being cheated on by the very person you love and trust is incredibly painful. As well as impacting how you interact with new love interests; the idea of being cheated on again makes it very difficult to trust again in many facets of their life. They will sometimes avoid relationships totally on the possibility that they may get hurt again.

Strangely enough,  many people who have been cheated on cling hopefully to the person who has betrayed them. That person is at the very least familiar to them and everything else is the unknown element.  Possibly they feel that they could never trust a new person so they are better off staying with somebody they know and hoping that person will change. The change they hope for seldom happens.

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