Getting over a good or bad relationship sometimes is not the easiest thing to do. In fact there are those that argue that it’s one of the most frustrating, devastating, nerve-wracking times of their life. There is a reason that separation and divorce is ranked right up near the top after death of a loved one and moving as major causes of anxiety, stress and depression. This would not come as any great shock, I’m sure, to anyone learning this who has been through this trial in their life. The feelings can vary in degrees of severity dependant on the length of time shared with the individual and/or children shared in the relationship. At the end of the day, I’m sure that we can agree upon this one basic fact; that this is a major upset in a person’s day-to-day routine
So how do we get out of this funk? The drop zone, so to speak. The place or time in our lives when the bottom drops out of our world and a flood of emotions takes us on a turbulent ride. We have choices on how we deal with these emotions. They will come unbidden into our thoughts; but what we do from that point is most definitely our choice. Taking a moral highroad, to me, is the most logical choice. Try not to play the childish games that sometimes rear their ugly heads in highly emotional times. It’s easier said than done. But you really do have to make a conscious effort to restrain yourself. You are in fact a loaded cannon at this time and can cause a ton of further devastation; especially if you have children with this person. Occupy yourself with new ventures and getting a normal routine going. Get yourself some professional help if you feel you need it.
Don’t forget; life is a journey. The path to your new self-awareness and new self-confidence is seldom easy. Many things in life that are worthwhile and rewarding are not gained easily. Put your nose to the grindstone and be prepared to do some soul-searching. So while you’re on this road to recovery it may be easier to understand that there are places you can go and people you can see that can help you and have been there too. Seek them out; your greatest healing will come from sharing with those who lend their support. Believe it or not, you will become a stronger and wiser individual because of this journey. Beware of the innate desire to close yourself in and keep things to yourself. You will halt your healing process immeasurably. I can hear you right now saying “blah, blah, blah” but if I hadn’t been through this myself; I would not be so adamant to pass this along. It WILL NOT just go away. The feelings and hurt buried and festering can cause serious long-term physical and emotional problems. If you choose to relive the hurt in order to heal, before you know it; new hopes and dreams will replace the ones that you have lost. You will be moving forward in your life again and feeling better than you’ve felt in a long time.