The first sign that you have met a Romeo or Juliet of a dangerous flavor is that they know far more about you than you know about them. They’ve been doing some homework on you. Not a bad thing on its own; but when you add all of the factors together, it spells trouble. This information control is step number one; and quite possibly there is a hidden agenda that you are not aware of. At this stage, you’re flattered that they’ve been so interested in you that they’ve taken the time to find out these details.
Sign number two is the presence of information that you’ve never personally verified. You have an idea based on the controlled information that you’ve been supplied by this individual but your impression is being “managed” by them. There are some common lies to garner sympathy and boost your perception of this individual. Lying about their status by falsifying their educational background, their occupation, and social connections is common. There are also the personal tragedy lies that are often embellished like a great loss or sudden death of a close relative or friend. The most common is lying about marital status.
A big tipoff is the third sign. Deceptive relationships usually take off like a rocket. This allows you no time to second guess any suspicious thoughts that you might have had about not knowing all the details. Or perhaps you don’t care because you’re tied up in knots and over the moon happy with this individual who is so wrapped up in you. Love at first sight combined with the other factors is a red flag.
Romantic liars have a need to keep their partners on a short leash. This would be sign number four. What’s dangerous about this is that the more out of contact their conquest is with the real world; the less contact they will have with someone who might actually know and voice the truth about the romantic liar. As a result, it is common for romantic liars to go to some rather extraordinary lengths to limit or control how much contact a victim has with friends, family or co-workers that might just have a little too much information.
Fifth sign and a very strong sign. One that unfortunately the victim will usually talk themselves out of believing. Your intuition will kick in. Your gut instinct will be questioning but to no avail. The true answers will NOT be coming from this Romeo or Juliet. In fact they may kick into high gear; flowers, gifts and loving gestures just to throw you off the trail.
We have to learn to follow our instincts and not let our heart take control over our minds when these signs are so evident. The honest and kind person tends to be more vulnerable to this type of individual because they are “wired” to believe the best in people.
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