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The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-4


The layers of deception run deep.

Random snippets of real life drama with an ex-husband who lived to lie and cheat and cover his tracks and situations where he financially, emotionally and physically abused. As in many things in life, the truth was buried…buried deep within the layers of the infamous cheater who we will call Onion Boy (O.B. for short). We will strip away the layers for all to see the loser is not the victim but the man who believes he can lie so well that he will never be caught…

This saga picks up where #3 left off, end of November ’99. After the long (2 hour) tearful phone call from his parents house, he comes over certain that he will be received with open arms. Having played the pity card to the max, he was welcomed with open arms and a readiness to forgive him anything and everything. Stupid me. Stupid me. Stupid me. There’s an old saying ‘Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” Well…welcome to phase 2 of my life with this smooth-talking, lying monster. Having played on my hopes and dreams of a future together as a family, he had no problem insinuating himself right back into the driver’s seat. I was, sadly, mush during this time. Heartbroken and sad that my daughter didn’t see her father and heartbroken and sad for the life he could have had but settled for much less….or so I thought at the time…There was even a conversation that we had late one night…since he always came after his daughter went to bed so that he could have privacy for whatever he had in mind…about how he had been caught by his mistress in her house with another woman. THAT alone should have raised some serious red flags for me….but whatever thoughts I had on that issue I resolved myself by saying that “the past was the past” and convinced myself that we were moving forward. HMMM…amazing how blind one person can be. He was even brash enough to give me the woman’s name he was caught with…NICE! What a class act.

Much later on, I found out the real story. About the woman, who I found out much later was a stripper and about the circumstances which led the mistress to be away from the house on that very evening. But that’s for another day…good ol’ O.B. Whenever there’s a lie, he’s never far away. The truth is a delicate seed that if not given light will never grow to the surface.

Welcome to my life with Onion Boy! – stay tuned for much more.

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3 thoughts on “The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-4

  1. Hope you don’t beat yourself up over this jerk. I wonder how many of these type of people are out there. I also have a relationship history that I’m less than proud of. One of these good-for-nothings I ended up marrying (he verbally and emotionally abused me) and the other one I let move in with me. and guess what. he’d lied, cheated and led me along and left me with outrageous credit card debts on joint purchases. He spent all of my savings. dumb me, he had all my passwords to all my banking information. two years later i’m just now getting out from underneath the debts. the biggest problem was that i always believed that both of these guys were basically good people and wouldn’t take advantage of me. what a loser i felt like then; just starting to get past it now. this blog has helped the healing. thanks!

  2. my ex g/f kept me on a leash like that. i put up with her ways because i loved her more than i respected myself. she’d come back and then she’d leave; found out she had a semi=permanent thing going on the side. took me years to dig myself out from under. great series, bring on more onion boy. makes me believe that there’s others out there and i’m not sucha smuck for taking all the crap for so long.

  3. @brian

    too bad, there’s lots of jerks some of them are definately women

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