Bullies really are cowards, preying on the weak,
Making life a misery, for the mild and meek.
Harassing and distressing, thinking it is fun,
No remorse about the pain, that is being done.
Such abuse continues on, especially in the schools,
Bullies reigning terror, ignoring all the rules.
Victims suffer in silence, with threats being incurred,
Fear of retaliation, keeps many cases unheard.
Emotional scarring from torment, they carry through their life,
Painful memories still remain, from bullies running rife.
– Bill Hoeneveld
Hold a paper in your hand and crumple it into a ball. The paper represents the victim. Now open up the paper and flatten it. Keep trying to flatten it to its original state. You will find that no amount of smoothing and pressing will make the paper appear in its previously pristine condition. It remains crinkled and crumpled. Thus are the scars that remain after abuse; they are permanent.
All of Canada and many in the United States have been following the story of Amanda Todd, the 15 year old from B.C. Canada who ended a cycle of bullying by taking her own life to silence her pain on October 10, 2012. A month preceding her death, she posted a video on YouTube describing her pain through a number of handwritten cards.
When Amanda was in Grade 7, she was lured by an unknown man to expose her breasts during an online chat session. Roughly a year later, she received a message from this man via Facebook threatening that if she didn’t give him a show, he would send the webcam picture to her friends and family.
Feeling that she had no where to turn or confide in, she went on to explain, “He knew my address, school, relatives, friends, family names.”
It took a turn for the worse when during Christmas break, the police knocked on her door at home. The police explained that her photo had been sent to everyone. It was then that Amanda started to suffer from anxiety, major depression and panic disorder.
In her video, she outlined more recent bullying over her relationship with a boy that led to an assault and consequently she had been left lying in a ditch. She said she tried to kill herself twice.
She closes the video with the following words, “I have nobody. I need someone.”
As is often the case with abuse victims, they are hesitant to speak out or make public their pain and their tormentors; often fearing retaliation and yet more abuse. In short, even though family members and friends are there to help, there help is not sought out. Thus, they are often alone in their struggle. Take action wherever and whenever you can; let’s stop bullying dead in its tracks.
Remember the paper…..