Consistent Uncertainties

Never underestimate your power to heal with a kind smile or hurt with a simple word.


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Embracing Choice

Hello friends, it’s been quite some time since i wrote something a little more personal. Sometimes, it’s easier to write about others and their troubles and remove yourself from the spotlight to regroup. Maybe you won’t want to read, maybe you will. Maybe it’ll mean something to you or maybe it’ll just be the ramblings of some stranger. I happened across this saying on a facebook friend’s status and found myself (internally) pumping fist in the air and shrieking at the top of my lungs (again internally) the words “DAMN STRAIGHT!!” in reaction to the “I Choose” spiel that i had just read. But then, i began to think to myself that there was some sort of cosmic pull or some time shift (sorry, admitted trekkie fan over here) holding me back. Realizing that it was my inner self ruining my “AHA” moment, i felt myself getting superbly pissed of at my overzealous psyche horning in on all those warm and fuzzy feelings. But then, like a punch in the gut, Continue reading


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Fuhgeddaboudit!

I love this expression; you can use it anyday, any way. It can mean just about anything. It’s a classic Italian line  that’s been used in just about every movie and TV show prominently featuring Italians. Why it’s even MORE Italian than pasta!

You cheated on your wife. Fuhgeddaboudit. You stole property that didn’t belong to you and didn’t get caught. Fuhgeddaboudit. Continue reading


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Shades of Abuse

There’s the black and white of physical, financial and sexual abuse; but harder to define and evaluate are the shades of abuse caused by manipulation, lies, and deceit. In small doses, one would have a difficult time identifying these factors as abuse. Continue reading


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The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-5

The layers of deception run deep.

Random snippets of real life drama with an ex-husband who lived to lie and cheat and cover his tracks and situations where he financially, emotionally and physically abused. As in many things in life, the truth was buried…buried deep within the layers of the infamous cheater who we will call Onion Boy (O.B. for short). We will strip away the layers for all to see the loser is not the victim but the man who believes he can lie so well that he will never be caught…

Enter New Year’s eve 2000, the new millenium, our new start…or so I’d been led to believe. Continue reading


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The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-4

The layers of deception run deep.

Random snippets of real life drama with an ex-husband who lived to lie and cheat and cover his tracks and situations where he financially, emotionally and physically abused. As in many things in life, the truth was buried…buried deep within the layers of the infamous cheater who we will call Onion Boy (O.B. for short). We will strip away the layers for all to see the loser is not the victim but the man who believes he can lie so well that he will never be caught…

This saga picks up where #3 left off, end of November ’99. Continue reading


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The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-3

The layers of deception run deep.

Random snippets of real life drama with an ex-husband who lived to lie and cheat and cover his tracks and situations where he financially, emotionally and physically abused. As in many things in life, the truth was buried…buried deep within the layers of the infamous cheater who we will call Onion Boy (O.B. for short). We will strip away the layers for all to see the loser is not the victim but the man who believes he can lie so well that he will never be caught…

This installment of the O.B. saga took place in late November/early December 1999. Continue reading


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The Exploits and Misadventures of Onion Boy-2

Random snippets of real life drama with an ex-husband who lived to lie and cheat and cover his tracks and situations where he financially, emotionally and physically abused. As in many things in life, the truth was buried…buried deep within the layers of the infamous cheater who we will call Onion Boy (O.B. for short). We will strip away the layers for all to see the loser is not the victim but the man who believes he can lie so well that he will never be caught…

In and around the summer of 1992, Continue reading